5 steps to making your dreams a reality

You might like waiting for Mondays or for the start of the month or the start of the year. Well this Monday you’ve got almost all of those with 1st July also being the start of the second half of 2019.

I want to help you to get where you want to be and I know you can do it.

If you’re new here and wondering who I am and how I know I can help you, hi, I’m Lucy. I’m a full-time lawyer in London and also a qualified personal trainer. I work specifically with people who are juggling stressful careers and busy family lives and help them find time to create and live a life they love whether that’s helping them to lose weight or take on a big challenge. My latest challenge was running 6 marathons in 5 days across the desert which I did in a week of annual leave.

I am so passionate about helping others achieve their dreams and showing it is possible, let me share how you can make the next 6 months the best of your life.

  1. Write a list of everything you’ve achieved in the first half of the year.

This is the point where you can congratulate yourself on everything you’ve achieved. For the workouts you did, the times you said no to one extra drink, the times you opted to cook at home instead of getting a takeaway, for the times you said no to avoid spreading yourself too thin,and the adventures you started planning. Small steps are good enough to go on the list. Give yourself a huge pat on the back for any of the scary stuff you did which pushed you out of your comfort zone; like sign up for a new course or take on a challenge when you weren’t ready. You have already achieved so much in the start of the year and you should be proud.

2. Where do you want to be?

Before we start planning for the next six months we need to know where we are going. Now is the time for some serious self-reflection. Are you where you want to be? Take the key areas of your life:

i. Relationships - partner, family, friends

ii. Health - relationship with food and exercise

iii. Money - consider debts, spending and earnings

iv. Life Goals - what is that dream, the big scary one you hardly dare let yourself say out loud

v. Home Life - is it calm and organised or a little frantic.

vi. Career - do you do a job you love or are you just paying bills?

Take a serious look at each category and honestly as yourself if you’re where you want to be. Are you being a good daughter, sister, wife? Do you plan fun afternoons with your friends or send them little cards or presents to let them know you’re thinking of them. Are you being the best you that you can be or are you getting bogged down by piles of washing and ironing on a weekend which means you never see your friends and you never plan any adventures? Take an honest look at each category, this isn’t a negative criticise yourself exercise but an opportunity to say, “Hey I hate ironing shirts, that is not for me and I don’t want to do it.” Then look at an alternative to ironing shirts every Sunday evening. (Ironing is one of my worst jobs, I totally hate it and do anything to avoid doing it!)

The list should help you to see which areas you’re happy with and which maybe need a little more attention. Focus on one or two small aspects for the month ahead.

3. What are you going to do in the next six months?

Time to get realistic on what you can achieve. Perhaps you aren’t seeing or speaking to your friends much, then set aside some time once a week to send them a voice note or two. Or perhaps you joined a gym in January and never went. That’s fine, you’re in the same place as thousands of others, the difference is, you’re going to make a change and start again.

I wrote a post a couple of weeks ago about the power of telling yourself yourself you can. Start telling yourself you can and start believing it.

One way to ensure success is not to try and do everything all at once. From the list above, pick the one area which you want to change most and focus on that. Perhaps your current job doesn’t give you the flexibility you want, maybe it doesn’t motivate you and inspire you. We spend a lot of our adult lives working, there is no point in doing something you don’t enjoy, if your job doesn’t bring you joy perhaps it’s time to start looking for something new.

4. Get some accountability

You’re going to reach your goals much quicker if you have someone keeping you accountable. Perhaps you and your partner can start eating healthily together. Maybe you and your best friend can plan a weekend adventure together. Maybe you want to sign up with a personal trainer. For this month only I’ve opened up my home workout programme.

If your goal is to finally get fitter and stronger then join me and train from the comfort of your own home. For this month only I am giving you the opportunity to get fit for a fiver. You’ll get accountability through joining and training with others. You don’t need to join my group though, you can find free workout videos on YouTube, here are some of mine or head off to Parkrun on a Saturday morning, you can find your local Parkrun here

5. Commit and take action

I can share all the motivational quotes in the world but the secret to successfully achieving your goal is focussing on what you want and working towards it every day. When I set myself the goal of climbing the tallest freestanding mountain in the world, Kilimanjaro, I worked towards it every day for six months. Some days I was really specific, I booked the trip, took out insurance, looked into which kit I needed. Other days, I made sure I was doing the workouts which would get me to the top and strengthen my mental toughness. On other days I simply imagined what it would feel like to reach the summit. I let myself think about what it would feel like not to make it and to know that it was because I hadn’t trained hard enough and that gave me the motivation to get back on track and get focussed on making it to the top. Want some extra motivation, this is the day-to-day story of my trip.

The only person standing between you and your dreams coming true, is you. Sometimes, the thing holding you back, is the belief that something is holding you back.

2020 is in six months, are you ready?!!

I would love to know in the comments below your big dream and what you’re going to do now to make it a reality.

Lucy x